Anonymous asked: Hey, so I have friends with benefits with this guy I have known for a year. We are really good together. I suck him and he goes down on me and fingers me. The problem is, is that I'm a Virgin. But every time I'm with him I just wanna fuck him. But I don't wanna lose it to a guy I'm just hooking up with, you know? How do I get self control about this, so I don't regret it? He doesn't mind not having sex. But we dirty text he says he just wants to fuck me. I don't know what to do. Help??

fuck him! this isn’t the 18th century where losing your virginity was a special occasion between a man and his wife with roses and if your sheets weren’t red, the woman would be stoned.  in today’s time, sex is bound to happen. we’re bombarded with it everywhere. i just say to look at it this way: if you care about him, trust him, are comfortable with him, and knows with certainty that he genuinely cares about you and has respect for you, then lose it to him.  he sounds like a genuine guy and you guys are friends.  if you’re holding out on losing it to the love of your life on a special occasion, then you’ll be waiting forever.

either that, or tell yourself you’ll get pregnant and die if you have sex. that should teach you self control.